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the margin · on self
Perspective, motive, and the through-line
Hand the same house to five architects and every blueprint is valid on its own. Overlay them without reconciling intent and you get five bathrooms and no front door. Most conflict is overlaid blueprints.
Hand the same house to five architects and you get five blueprints. Each one is valid on its own terms.
But lay them on top of each other without reconciling what each was for, and you get five bathrooms and no front door—overlapping, conflicting. That's what most conflict actually is. Not one person wrong, just valid plans stacked without their intentions lined up.
So don't mistake the through-line for the intentions sitting on it. The same sentence, the same room, looks different by lens. Find what each person was building for first.
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